🔍 ROUND 1: Core Relationship Patterns

In social situations, you typically:

Contribute intellectually when you have something meaningful to say

Enjoy connecting but feel drained after, need alone time

Focus on others' comfort and enjoyment

Feel energized by being admired and competent

Prefer leading or guiding the conversation

When you need support:

Prefer figuring it out alone

Struggle with asking — don’t want to seem needy

Don’t want to burden others, try to handle it yourself

Ask if it doesn’t make you look weak

Ask if you control how it’s given

When asked to do something you don’t want to:

Say yes to avoid emotional tension

Feel guilty saying no

Say yes, then resent it

Say no only if it won’t damage your image

Say no, sometimes using strategy instead of honesty

When you fail at something important:

Hide or analyze intellectually

Feel disappointed, try to learn

Worry about how it affects others

Distress over performance and worth

Frustration over lost credibility

When things feel out of control:

🔍 ROUND 2: Social Dynamics & Authority

When you become the focus of a group’s attention:

Uncomfortable — prefer redirecting or staying intellectual

Mixed — want it, but also want to escape

Worry about saying the right thing

Comfortable if admired for expertise

Natural and comfortable being influential

After spending time with people:

Need lots of alone time to recharge

Either energized or completely drained

Tired from managing others’ needs

Energized if you made a good impression

Energized if you influenced the dynamic

When someone disagrees with you:

Sharing your struggles:

Prefer to keep private, share ideas instead

Want to share but feel it's a burden

Focus on others’ struggles instead of your own

Find it hard — prefer to share successes

Share selectively and with those you trust

With bosses or authority figures:

Prefer minimal interaction, just let me work

Want their approval but hate control

Work hard to please them

Want recognition for competence

Need respect as an equal, even if they outrank you

🔍 ROUND 3: Intimacy & Vulnerability

When someone wants emotional closeness quickly:

Prefer intellectual topics over personal feelings

Want it, but feel overwhelmed — manage pace

Focus on their needs, set yours aside

Feel vulnerable — prefer sharing successes

Cautious until trust is proven

When offered a gift, compliment, or favor:

Awkward — deflect with humor or intellect

Touched but uncomfortable — want to reciprocate fast

Grateful but worry what they expect

Enjoy if tied to achievements — awkward if not

Gracious if genuine — suspicious if manipulative

When you're angry at someone you care about:

Keep it in — withdraw to avoid damage

Feel it, but don’t know how to express it

Suppress it — leaks out sideways later

Express it while maintaining composure/image

Express clearly, sometimes more forcefully than needed

You feel most loved when others:

Appreciate your mind and perspective

Show care without overwhelming you

Appreciate your emotional support

Recognize your achievements

Respect your expertise or seek your advice

When it comes to trust:

Prefer emotional distance

Want to trust — need lots of reassurance

Trust easily — often get hurt

Trust slowly, need proof of reliability

Trust very carefully — protect against control

🔍 ROUND 4: Identity & Self-Expression

In groups or organizations, you often feel:

Like an outsider, even if people are friendly

Torn between belonging and needing space

Responsible for harmony

Comfortable if achievements are recognized

Natural when influencing direction

In relationships, you tend to:

Highly value autonomy

Swing between closeness and distance

Prioritize the relationship over self

Need respect to feel close

When your preferences differ from others’:

Go along to avoid tension

Struggle between asserting and accommodating

Defer to make others happy

Speak up if it’s important to your image

Expect your preferences to be respected

How you want to be perceived:

Authentic — not concerned with others’ views

Capable, independent — not needy

Kind and helpful — not selfish

Successful, impressive

Knowledgeable, worthy of respect

When your expertise is questioned:

🔍 ROUND 5: Core Patterns & Leadership

When it comes to taking up space and being seen:

Feel like you don’t have the right

Feel like you’re too much, so you shrink

Take up just enough to help — not burden

Comfortable when performing well

Comfortable being seen and heard

Your daily energy is:

Protected by limiting interaction

Depleted by giving — restored by receiving

Drained by others’ emotions

Maintained by performing well

Maintained by feeling influential

When treated unfairly:

When flaws are visible:

Retreat or intellectualize

Uncomfortable, try to accept

Embarrassed — worry about others’ views

Manage image harder

Dislike appearing less than competent

In group settings, you naturally: